So what’s the appeal of this character for you? I mean, how do you see him and what’s the appeal? x
Ten rape prevention tips:
1. Don’t put drugs in women’s drinks.
2. When you see a woman walking by herself, leave her alone.
3. If you pull over to help a woman whose car has broken down, remember not to rape her.
4. If you are in an elevator and a woman gets in, don’t rape her.
5. When you encounter a woman who is asleep, the safest course of action is to not rape her.
6. Never creep into a woman’s home through an unlocked door or window, or spring out at her from between parked cars, or rape her.
7. Remember, people go to the laundry room to do their laundry. Do not attempt to molest someone who is alone in a laundry room.
8. Use the Buddy System! If it is inconvenient for you to stop yourself from raping women, ask a trusted friend to accompany you at all times.
9. Carry a rape whistle. If you find that you are about to rape someone, blow the whistle until someone comes to stop you.
10. Don’t forget: Honesty is the best policy. When asking a woman out on a date, don’t pretend that you are interested in her as a person; tell her straight up that you expect to be raping her later. If you don’t communicate your intentions, the woman may take it as a sign that you do not plan to rape her."
Posted by Leigh Hofheimer under Prevention
this is absolutely and completely amazing
This should be distributed to every college and university and posted on their bulletin boards and taught during orientation, which is coming up soon, so get going on that ASAP.
Mhh, I understand the confusion.
This is something I posted on facebook:
Hi! *waves* Lets talk about 50 shades of grey! I heard you liked it, mass popular majority. And that is GREAT! Reading is AWESOME. BUT you might also want a BDSM relationship that is similar to the one in the book! THAT is NOT awesome. That is an abusive relationship, and a bad portrayal of BDSM! BDSM includes lots of discussion, respect of safewords and hard limits, and AFTERCARE! See after a scene you might “drop” as the chemicals in your brain and body drop, and can make you feel sad or depressed. This means you need care afterwords, such as warm blankets, water to replenish the fluids in your body, soft touches, foods to help replenish electrolytes like fruits! These important things are very lacking in fifty shades of grey, and they are VERY important to a BDSM relationship! You need a safeword, a word that means “stop!!!!” and it needs to be respected. You need hard limits to be respected. The lack of these things can cause severe emotional and physical damage and IS abusive! Please play safe. Heres a link with some suggestions to other BDSM books, and if you want more BDSM resources PLEASE let me know. Im glad you enjoyed reading! Just play safe ! Heres more info
I guess the biggest issues are that he is pretty bad at aftercare, as in just doesn’t feel its necessary, and it TOTALLY is. And then he also doesn’t really respect her hard limits if I remember correctly, shes not to keen on the whole BDSM thing, and *SPOILER ALERT* i do believe she leaves him at the end of the book because she is uncomfortable, its a triology though and i think they get back together. I heard from a friend the later books also make it seem like he is only into bdsm because he was abused, but i stopped reading after the first book!
The biggest qualm the community has is that it ignores the things BDSM community is big on, safety, consent, aftercare, safewords. It wasn’t written to be a good portrayal of what the community is like, and paints us in a bad light!
I will do a reread of it and make points of it sometime later this week<3!
If no one minds me jumping in on the subject, I wrote this post with the issues I personally had about the book, for anyone who wants a dom side.
John Barrowman on meeting Benedict Cumberbatch. (x)
He is basically us.
I was volunteering at a booksale when I ran across this and just…
Submitted to me by mrsrhettbutler
uh…those arms…you’re all thinking that, right…?
i feel like we’re all just kind of reblogging it in a circle and looking at each other uneasily like, waiting for someone to finally give in and yell it out in the reply chain
you held out as long as you could, i’m sure.
Edward Dildo-armsDOMO ARIGATO FISTO ROBOTO
I SPAT OUT MY WATER ON THE LAST COMMENT FUCK
If you’re Christian I hope you don’t believe asexuality exists because you are implying you and/or others are immune from sinful lust, which is applying divine properties to humans and therefore defying crucial theological principles.
It’s just in asexuals are actually have divine properties
lmao oh my goodness
finally the recognition i deserve, the godly kind